Co-parents usually have numerous, ongoing conversations to handle child-related decisions. After creating a co-parenting plan, you and the other parent should have a few immediate conversations to set the tone for your co-parenting.
Every family is unique. So, co-parents do not need to have the same initial conversations. However, it’s vital to discuss some topics, including:
Daily routines
Talk about bedtimes, wake-up times, screen time limits, chores, mealtimes, homework rules, diet and so on. Consider having similar routines in both homes to maintain stability. Using the same routines establishes predictability, which can help your child feel secure, as they won’t have to embrace new ones now and then.
Communication
A conversation about how to communicate when co-parenting can save you from conflicts. Examples of matters to agree on include what to communicate about and topics to avoid, information that should be shared, when to contact each other and the modes of communication to use.
Emergencies
It helps to discuss how you will handle emergencies early in the process, including medical, schedule, safety or behavioral emergencies.
What are your contact options? How soon should a parent be notified? Which are your preferred local urgent care clinics? etc.
Transitions
Agree on when and where transitions will occur. You can choose exact drop-off and pick-up times and neutral transition locations to prevent confusion and anxiety for your child. Doing this can also help prevent misunderstandings between you and the other parent.
Financial responsibilities
Create a list of child-related expenses, including living costs, education, medical care and extracurricular activities. Then, establish systems on how to handle them, such as pro-rata splitting, category division, fixed-percentage contributions or a reimbursement system.
Early conversations between co-parents are crucial. Learn more about the topics to discuss to increase the chances of peaceful co-parenting.